Newsletter #9: Now

March 30, 2021

A book.

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Our mind’s default is to concentrate on two things:

  1. The past
  2. The future

What’s missing? The Now.

Which is strange, because the present moment is all we ever have. Eckhart implores us over and over to come to the present moment. Just be. And enjoy being!

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment: Tolle, Eckhart:  9781577314806: Books

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A thought.

Recall the last time you sat down with a child and played with them. They are focused on one thing and one thing only: The Now. They aren’t thinking about what’s for dinner, what time they have to wake up in the morning, who they have to call or what bill they have to pay. They are 100% immersed in playing with you.

It’s an incredible feat and it’s very challenging to meet their undivided attention with our own.

There are few places we may be fully in “The Now”. Perhaps it’s when you’re playing a sport (which is why you can recall every shot, pass or play). Perhaps it’s when you’re cooking (which is why you can smell the aromas and feel the knife slicing through the vegetable). Perhaps it’s when you’re out in nature (which is why you notice the flowers and hear the birds chirping).

Where do you find yourself not thinking about the past nor the future?

A quote.

“Be happy in the moment, that’s enough. Each moment is all we need, not more.”

Mother Teresa

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Newsletter #8: Compounding

March 16, 2021

A book.

The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

There are things in our lives that are easy to do and things in our lives that are easy not to do. Do them.

You will not see a difference in your strength or your body after 10 push-ups. You will not see a difference after a week of 70 push-ups. You will see a difference after a year of 3,650 push-ups. The compounding effect is real, just ask the British Cycling Team.

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A thought.

We often think we have to make big changes in order to see results.

If we want to get healthier, we think we must completely overhaul our diet.

If we want to get stronger, we think we must go to the gym for 75 minutes a day.

If we want to get smarter, we think we must read 100 pages a day.

When in fact, if we make small changes like the following:

  • Only drink water and coffee during the week.
  • 10 push-ups and 10 sit-ups a day.
  • 10 pages of a book a day.

We won’t see results in a day or a week, perhaps not even a month. But after a year, we will have completely transformed ourselves thanks to the compounding effect.

The journey doesn’t start when you think about taking the first step – it starts when you take the first step. So just start!

A quote.

“It’s not the big things that add up in the end; it’s the hundreds, thousands, or millions of little things that separate the ordinary from the extraordinary.”

Darren Hardy

What little things can you do?

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Newsletter #7: Memories

March 2, 2021

A book.

Final Rounds: by James Dodson

This is a true story about a terminally-ill father and his son who make final memories together on a golf trip. You don’t have to love golf or be faced with a terminally-ill loved one to feel the kindness, love and laughter that exudes from this story.

Final Rounds is a stark reminder that all we ever have is the present moment – so why let life’s distractions get in the way to make a memory with those we love?

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A thought.

We should be careful not to pass up an opportunity to make memories with the ones we love. Even if it seems insignificant at the time.

A friend has recently put a 30 minute hold on their calendar that repeats each day.

How do they use it? They go pick their child up from school. They get uninterrupted time each day to make tiny memories with their child. Awesome.

Making memories can be that simple.

Memories are the foundation of our relationships and relationships are the foundation of a fulfilled life.

A quote.

“It’s realizing that a great dream is not as good as a great memory. The dream can be had by anyone. The memory – must be made.”

Eric Thomas

What memory can you go make?

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Newsletter #6: Negotiation

February 16, 2021

A book.

Never Split the Difference: by Chris Voss

This is the best book on negotiation. Whether you’re negotiating with a customer, a landlord, a spouse, or a salesperson – you’ll find it useful. There are a lot of practical tips, but a few key ones are:

  • Ask open-ended questions
  • Be empathetic
  • Listen more than you speak

Another one of Chris’ tips is labeling. If you’re actively listening during a negotiation, you’ll begin to feel what the other person is feeling. Chris says: Label it!

“Sounds like you are frustrated.”

“Seems like you aren’t comfortable with this outcome.”

Label. Then listen. You’ll hear more from their side.

This is a win/win. More information for you and your counterpart feels understood.

A thought.

We often hear the word negotiation and think “I don’t negotiate in my life” or “I’m not in business”.

Think again!

We negotiate every day.

If you have a kid, you negotiate TV time or how much more dinner they need to eat to earn dessert.

If you have a significant other, you negotiate which restaurant you should go to or who is going to do the laundry.

If you have a landlord, you negotiate rent and how long you can stay.

If you have a boss, you negotiate your salary and other ways you’re compensated.

Taking the time to learn a few easy tips (hint: Labeling and Mirroring) can set us up for success in many areas of our lives.

A quote.

“Negotiation is not an act of battle; it’s a process of discovery. The goal is to uncover as much information as possible.”

Chris Voss

What can you discover in your next negotiation?

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Newsletter #5: Habits

February 2, 2021

A book.

Atomic Habits: by James Clear

Hands down, this is the best book on building habits. James Clear walks through a very methodical approach to developing good habits and getting rid of the bad ones.

When we realize that our outcomes in life are the results of our habits – we start paying attention. We must challenge ourselves to improve our habits first so we can improve our outcomes later.

A thought.

A simple habit to improve ourselves is to ask the question “What’s better for the long term?” before making any decision.

Should I eat a deep fried Oreo or an appleWhat’s better for the long term?

Should I do a 15 minute workout or scroll my phoneWhat’s better for the long term?

Should I binge watch this TV show or read a book? What’s better for the long term?

Should I buy this thing on Amazon or save for retirement? What’s better for the long term?

We don’t have to be robots and not enjoy things in the short term, but if at least 51% of our decisions are better for the long term, we’ll come out on top.

Incorporating this habit into our decision process is how we make our future selves proud of our current selves.

A quote.

“Habits matter because they help you become the person you want to be.”

James Clear

What kind of person do you want to be?

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Newsletter #4: Kindness

January 19, 2021

A book.

The Sun Does Shine: by Anthony Ray Hinton

A true story about Anthony Ray Hinton who was falsely accused and sentenced to death row in 1988.

This book highlights how Anthony used kindness to find life and freedom amid horrible circumstances. If he can do it on death row – there’s no reason we cannot find kindness across our lives.

A thought.

It’s always good to remember that everyone is going through something: A tough day at work, an ill loved one, depression, anxiety – we all have our struggles.

We must remind ourselves of this next time we encounter a friend, a coworker or a stranger. 

Approach with kindness and remember that we have 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason: listen twice as much as we speak.

A quote.

“I shall pass through this world but once. Any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer it or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again”

Stephen Grellet

What kindness can you show today?

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Newsletter #3: People

January 5, 2021

A book.

How to Win Friends and Influence People: by Dale Carnegie

When I was first recommended this book, the act of “winning” friends seemed disingenuous. Nobody wants insincerity.

Once I began studying the 30 principles on how to win friends and influence people, I realized there was a theme of genuineness and sincerity. A few of my favorites:

#2 Give honest and sincere appreciation

#17 Try honestly to see things from the other persons point of view

#28 Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to

The more we can understand how people tick, how they make decisions and what’s important to them, the better off our lives and the lives of those around us will be.

We all interact with people to live a fulfilled life. Wouldn’t it be nice to know what’s truly important to the person you’re interacting with?

A thought.

Every person in our life has a gift. No matter their gender, race, upbringing, schooling or occupation. Their gift may be unknown to themselves. It takes patience, but if we take the time to help them realize their gift, we can completely transform their life.

A quote.

“Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language”

Dale Carnegie

Next time you are checking out at the store, find the person’s name on their name tag and say “How are you doing today, {insert name}?”.

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Newsletter #2: Happiness

December 22, 2020

A book.

The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor

It has always been said that success brings happiness. However, countless studies have shown the opposite: Happiness actually brings success. Find happiness to find success.

A thought.

What’s the most important contributor to happiness? Your relationships.

2020 has provided a reset button on our priorities. If you have’t taken advantage of the opportunity, seek out a relationship you want to grow and do it

Seriously. Do it. Text them. Call them. Send them a nice e-mail. It starts with you! 

A quote.

“Man only likes to count his troubles; he doesn’t calculate his happiness.”

Fyodor Dostoyevsky

How much happiness do you have?

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Newsletter #1: First

December 8, 2020

A book.

The Next Millionaire Next Door by Sarah Stanley Fallaw and Thomas J. Stanley

There is a big difference between income and net worth. Ones does not need a high income to become a millionaire. Those who consistently live below their means, are weary of consumerism and automate savings will have the best opportunity to become millionaires.

A thought.

Teaching is incredible. If you’re an expert in something, go find those who are eager to learn. It’s a fantastic way of giving back.

The more you teach, the more you learn. New ideas and finer distinctions will come through teaching.

What are you an expert in?

A quote.

“What you have in abundance can be priceless to someone else”

Tiago Forte

What do you have in abundance?

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